She mistrusts men and often blames herself for the rejection she’s felt, believing that she just wasn’t good enough.She says things like “I need him to say he wants a relationship, and then I’ll open up,” or “Once he gets to know me, he probably won’t like me.” The Scaredy Cat may put her guy through lots of tests before she feels confident that he’s truly interested.I’ve talked to countless single men over the years about their experiences with women, especially those in their 40s, 50s and beyond.In the following days I’m going to give you some of their stories of dating after 40 and relationships.By default she clings to the same type of guy she wanted in high school or college. (See the Wow Me Woman below.) The nice, relationship-minded men get quickly discarded by the 18 year old.Try as he might, the 60-year-old fabulous guy can’t measure up to her expectations because she’s looking for a man who doesn’t exist.
Just like how you’ve dated your share of challenging types of men like the Pinger, the Couch Potato and the older-and-balder-than-his-profile-guy…men also meet and enter into relationships with less-than-impressive types of women.
She gets stuck in affairs with men who never commit, and it’s often the nice guys who are interested in her who bear the brunt of her hurt and anger.
The Scaredy Cat he Scaredy Cat has been emotionally wounded by men in the past, and she can’t let go of it.
She insists he give and give with little or no reciprocity; after all, he’s the The Man and she’s his prize!
The 18 Year Old The 18 year old dates – sometimes a lot – but she doesn’t have relationships because “she doesn’t want the men who want her, and the men she wants don’t want her.” She doesn’t know what will make her happy and has not yet learned how to communicate and relate to grownup men.
People ask me all the time whether I offer dating and relationship coaching for single men. But I tell them that I help men by helping women dating after 40. ) One of the most transformational ways I support women is by helping you better understand GROWNUP men.